Last Words

the_choice_of_music

maxine (maxine@undisclosed.example.com) — 2021-01-11T11:25:50+00:00

The Choice of Music Join discussion Music at a funeral can touch places where words cannot reach. Choosing music for the funeral can help you to remember the person who has died and can be a really important part of the service. There is much more flexibility in music and how it is played at a funeral service especially in crematoriums and chapels of rest and sometimes people are encouraged to choose very unlikely music. Although this can make the service personal, we do think that it is im…

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maxine (maxine@undisclosed.example.com) — 2020-12-07T12:43:11+00:00

Last Words - help for those facing death * Practical Issues * The Grieving Process * Faith, Belief, Thinking about Death Click on any one of these topics and you will be taken to a detailed menu of subjects we cover. Here you will find a short account or explanation which we have written and a link to a forum where you can join a conversation about this subject.

covid_and_the_pandemic

maxine (maxine@undisclosed.example.com) — 2020-12-07T12:39:43+00:00

Covid and the Pandemic Join discussion The Covid Virus has added a terrible dimension to dying and mourning the dead. The human act of dying has been shrouded and obscured by the clinical necessities of the disease and making the rest of the population safe. The thoughts in this website and forum are based on years of experience of being with people who are dying and being with those who mourn. There are no easy answers to managing the grief as we remember and reflect. We hope that by shar…

poems_and_prose

maxine (maxine@undisclosed.example.com) — 2020-12-07T12:25:36+00:00

Poems, Prose and Writings about death Join discussion This is an area where we can share writing that has helped us. Please go to the forum and post a poem, piece of prose or writing which could be helpful to others. We will then be able to put them on this part of the website. Thanks

faith_belief_thinking_about_death

maxine (maxine@undisclosed.example.com) — 2020-12-07T12:01:33+00:00

Faith, Belief, Thinking about Death 1 - Standard Church of England teaching 2 - What does Islam teach? 3 - What do Hindus believe? 4 - What does Confucianism teach? 5 - What does the study of near-death experiences suggest? 6 - What do we make of the paranormal? 7 - Are there religious objections to cremation? 8 - Poems, prose and writings about death

the_grieving_process

maxine (maxine@undisclosed.example.com) — 2020-12-03T14:21:32+00:00

The Grieving Process 1. Initial shock and how to limit it 2. Distressing dreams 3. Loneliness and the sense of absence 4. Birthdays and other significant dates 5. Other people's attempts at solace 6. Grief and guilt 7. Dealing with regrets 8. Transitioning 9. Some books that might prove helpful

what_do_hindus_believe

charles (charles@undisclosed.example.com) — 2020-12-03T10:14:33+00:00

What do Hindus believe? Join discussion Our understanding of Hindu beliefs about death follow naturally from their beliefs about the ultimate purpose of life. The soul (atman, from the word for breath, an) is trapped in a cycle of seemingly endless reincarnation as it seeks moksa, the absorption into the godhead of Brahman. Death is then the release of the soul from its present incarnation and its preparation for the next stage of the cycle. What that will be depends on the karma, the merit, o…

what_does_islam_teach

charles (charles@undisclosed.example.com) — 2020-12-03T10:10:57+00:00

What does Islam teach? Join discussion Islamic Beliefs about Death Even more than with other major religions, we are in shifting territory when we try to pin down Islamic beliefs. What we present here is a kind of Highest Common Factor among a wide penumbra of beliefs and practices that vary from country to country, from denomination to denomination (principally but not exclusively Sunni and Shia), from one reading of the Koran to another.

the_importance_of_mourning

charles (charles@undisclosed.example.com) — 2020-12-02T21:29:28+00:00

The Importance of Mourning Join discussion Some cultures would find a heading about the importance of mourning very strange. In these cultures there would be a series of rituals and processes that would automatically click into place when someone dies and be non-negotiable - 'this is just what happens when someone dies'.

the_wake

charles (charles@undisclosed.example.com) — 2020-12-02T21:20:14+00:00

The Wake Join discussion The statement you often hear at a wake is 'I wish s/he was here to enjoy this'. If you have organised a wake where this is said then you have really honoured the departed. There are cultural differences in the wake, but this is a time when the tensions of the death and the funeral have passed and there is a real opportunity to celebrate the life of the deceased. It is often a time when you get to know the dead person in ways that were impossible during their lifetim…

flowers

charles (charles@undisclosed.example.com) — 2020-12-02T21:17:30+00:00

Flowers It is very often specified in an invitation to a funeral whether the family want flowers. Nowadays, especially if a funeral is at a crematorium, some people feel sad that the flowers are just left out and not appreciated and so may well suggest a charity donation instead, or provide an opportunity to make a donation when leaving the ceremony.

writing_the_eulogy

charles (charles@undisclosed.example.com) — 2020-12-02T21:10:16+00:00

Writing the eulogy Some points to bear in mind. 1.Watch the length. Better to leave people wishing for more rather than for less! 2.Humour is always tricky; never more so than at a funeral. Aim to laugh with, not at. 3.The eulogy is about the deceased, not you, so keep your stuff to yourself.

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maxine (maxine@undisclosed.example.com) — 2020-10-02T13:51:07+00:00