https://www.lastwords.uk/ 2026-04-04T23:42:13+00:00 https://www.lastwords.uk/ https://www.lastwords.uk/lib/tpl/bootstrap3/images/favicon.ico text/html 2020-11-11T16:59:17+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=are_there_religious_objections_to_cremation&rev=1605113957&do=diff Are there religious objections to cremation? Join discussion It is not difficult to see why there may be Christian objections to cremation. “The resurrection of the body” is a basic credal belief, founded on the Gospel accounts of the physical reality of Jesus’s resurrection. If you burn the body to a bucketful of dust, how can it possibly be resurrected? No surprise to find then that although cremation as a means of disposal of the dead is very ancient and widespread (both geographically and … text/html 2020-11-22T14:28:59+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=birthdays_and_other_significant_dates&rev=1606055339&do=diff Birthdays and other significant dates Join discussion Birthdays and other significant dates are hard as they often spark memories and act as a reminder of one's loss. Some people choose to commemorate the date and there are a number of ways that people choose. It could be that this is the date that one makes a special trip to the grave, or to a place that is significant for the deceased and the person that is mourning. My mother has the names of her parents and her husband written in a book … text/html 2020-11-25T13:45:25+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=choosing_memories&rev=1606311925&do=diff Choosing Memories Join discussion Choosing memories. This may seem like a contradiction in terms. You don't choose memories. They choose themselves and you are the helpless host….Well, not quite. You choose which photographs to keep; which to frame, even. And one reason that makes you choose this photo rather than that is that it brings back happy memories of a day at the sea side at Scarborough or Alice’s graduation. text/html 2020-12-07T12:39:43+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=covid_and_the_pandemic&rev=1607344783&do=diff Covid and the Pandemic Join discussion The Covid Virus has added a terrible dimension to dying and mourning the dead. The human act of dying has been shrouded and obscured by the clinical necessities of the disease and making the rest of the population safe. The thoughts in this website and forum are based on years of experience of being with people who are dying and being with those who mourn. There are no easy answers to managing the grief as we remember and reflect. We hope that by shar… text/html 2020-10-25T18:57:35+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=dealing_with_regrets&rev=1603652255&do=diff Dealing with regrets. One type of memory often causes people who are grieving a death immense pain - the memory of some event or conversation that they now much regret. There are many reasons for the immensity of that pain, but the universal one is that it is now too late - too late to say sorry; too late to explain; too late to put it right. Nothing can now be done, so the regret is unsalvable. text/html 2020-12-02T20:34:20+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=dealing_with_visitors&rev=1606941260&do=diff Dealing with Visitors Join discussion Ours is less and less of a visiting culture. People will text, email, phone, what’sapp, Facebook, Twitter….but they are less and less likely to visit. And that makes the visitors who do call, whether announced or not, all the more special. text/html 2020-12-02T20:51:30+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=dealing_with_your_own_grief&rev=1606942290&do=diff Dealing with your own grief Join discussion There are no set ways to deal with your own grief - it is your grief, a unique experience and one that has it's own power and characteristics. I am a firm believer in thinking that we are the best people to advise ourselves - the answer is within. Other people may tell you what has helped them and these ideas can be useful, but it is more important to be tuned into your own soul, your own experience and to learn to trust that. text/html 2020-11-11T15:38:23+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=discussing_death_with_the_dying&rev=1605109103&do=diff Discussing Death with the Dying Join discussion It is not easy to be prescriptive about this; everything depends on the nature and quality of your relationship with the person who is approaching death. What is right and fitting in one context would be a serious error of judgement in another. text/html 2020-11-26T13:03:01+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=disposal_of_personal_belongings&rev=1606395781&do=diff Disposal of Personal Belongings Join discussion Many people find this the hardest part of the whole process. These personal bits and pieces evoke so strongly the presence of the deceased that it seems almost blasphemous to move them from the very place where the deceased last put them. text/html 2020-11-23T10:00:22+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=distressing_dreams&rev=1606125622&do=diff Distressing Dreams Join discussion Distressing dreams. Almost all deaths come as a shock; even when we have been expecting it, the finality of death delivers a psychic blow. One way in which we adjust to that blow is by dreaming. The style of such dreams is very varied; no two people’s experiences will be the same. Some dream of happy memories. Others have a clear “wish-fulfilment” component. Some seem to follow a given pattern, with minor variants. Some are frankly unhappy, perhaps, for ex… text/html 2020-12-07T12:01:33+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=faith_belief_thinking_about_death&rev=1607342493&do=diff Faith, Belief, Thinking about Death 1 - Standard Church of England teaching 2 - What does Islam teach? 3 - What do Hindus believe? 4 - What does Confucianism teach? 5 - What does the study of near-death experiences suggest? 6 - What do we make of the paranormal? 7 - Are there religious objections to cremation? 8 - Poems, prose and writings about death text/html 2020-11-25T13:55:03+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=finding_help&rev=1606312503&do=diff Finding Help Join discussion We do encourage you to find help - whatever that may be. At different times we need emotional help, practical help, spiritual help, information or encouragement. Our friends and relatives are often our first port of call but sometimes it is easier to speak to someone 'outside'. In this section of the website we would like to assemble a list of people and agencies that are helpful. If you can add to this list it would be great. Please put a brief description of… text/html 2020-12-02T21:17:30+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=flowers&rev=1606943850&do=diff Flowers It is very often specified in an invitation to a funeral whether the family want flowers. Nowadays, especially if a funeral is at a crematorium, some people feel sad that the flowers are just left out and not appreciated and so may well suggest a charity donation instead, or provide an opportunity to make a donation when leaving the ceremony. text/html 2020-10-25T18:52:41+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=grief_and_guilt&rev=1603651961&do=diff Grief and guilt. Grief is miserable. You probably don’t need convincing of that. It is, however, made much worse if you blame yourself for some aspect of the death. You did not get there soon enough. You did not respond to her call for help. You encouraged her to double up on her pills. You missed that bed sore,,,,and so on. (We deal with regrets about events that jeopardized the relationship more generally in the next section.) Perhaps the most common source of guilt of all is the self-accusat… text/html 2020-11-11T18:19:01+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=how_do_catholics_differ_from_the_church_of_england&rev=1605118741&do=diff How do Catholics differ from the Church of England? Join discussion text/html 2020-11-23T15:41:57+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=initial_shock_and_how_to_limit_it&rev=1606146117&do=diff The initial shock and how to limit it Join discussion Shock and how to limit it. Death has an almost unlimited capacity to shock. And strangely that is as true of the long expected death as it is of the sudden and wholly unexpected death. The sudden breach in the possibility of any kind of mutual relationship, the finality and irreversibility of it, catches us off-guard, however prepared we thought we were. And then there is the mystery of it. Is there really nothing of him left other than th… text/html 2020-11-20T17:48:37+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=last_hours&rev=1605894517&do=diff Last hours Join discussion Last hours. It is not always easy to spot the fact that the patient has reached the end of the road. Signs to look for are the body “settling” more deeply into the bed; less coherent thinking when s/he is awake; longer periods between waking when deeply asleep; sometimes (but by no means always) a loss of bladder control. Sometimes it seems as if the patient knows very clearly that they are dying and will soon be dead. Often at that point they ask to be held. text/html 2020-11-21T12:14:27+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=laying_out&rev=1605960867&do=diff Laying out Join discussion Laying out the body after death can be different for different cultures. A young Muslim man talked to me about how he and friends of the deceased cleaned and dressed the body of their friend, talking and including him fondly in the conversation. My sister, a nurse, speaks of this being the final act of love and respect as the body is prepared and cherished. What both these insights give us is the need for love and respect, that though the spirit has gone there is a… text/html 2020-11-11T15:43:52+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=liaising_with_clergy_and_religious_leaders&rev=1605109432&do=diff Liaising with clergy (before death) Join discussion If you and/or the person concerned is a regular worshipper, the clergy will appreciate being kept in touch with the process. Most of all, they will want their prayers for you all to be well informed and up to date, so a weekly email (perhaps more frequent towards the end) will be much appreciated. text/html 2020-12-02T20:21:38+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=liaising_with_health_professionals&rev=1606940498&do=diff Liaising with health professionals. Join discussion At home The professionals you are likely to meet are the GP (occasionally), the District Nurses and, rarely, the Occupational Therapist and the people who deliver specialist equipment to the house. All these have their own rhythms, styles and ways of working so let’s review them in order. text/html 2020-11-30T12:51:18+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=loneliness_and_the_sense_of_absence&rev=1606740678&do=diff Loneliness and the Sense of Absence Join discussion Loneliness is such a mild and gentle word for something which can be a heart breakingly ache. The chronic nature of loneliness when someone close is never there again and the acute feeling when you reach out to talk to them or touch them and they are not there for you or with you. text/html 2020-12-02T20:47:07+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=notifying_the_bank&rev=1606942027&do=diff Probate and other matters This is taken from an article from the Guardian by Patrick Collinson - 6th June 2020; 5 steps to deal with a will and estate 1. Find the will. Once somebody's death has been registered and the funeral arranged, the first thing to do is to locate the person's will (or confirm that they did not make one). If you cannot find one in their home, contact the person's solicitor, accountant, or bank to see if any of them holds it. You can check whether a will is stored with… text/html 2020-10-25T18:55:05+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=other_people_s_attempts_at_solace&rev=1603652105&do=diff Other people’s attempts at solace. In most Western advanced cultures, we have got ourselves into a position where it is extremely uncomfortable to offer meaningful solace to someone recently bereaved. We have our stock phrases such as “I am sorry for your loss”; “Sad to hear your news”; “ You’ll be having a difficult time.right now…”, but even to us they sound hollow and even meaningless. The recipient accepts them with as much meaning as they accept change from a pound note or dollar bill; a … text/html 2020-12-07T12:25:36+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=poems_and_prose&rev=1607343936&do=diff Poems, Prose and Writings about death Join discussion This is an area where we can share writing that has helped us. Please go to the forum and post a poem, piece of prose or writing which could be helpful to others. We will then be able to put them on this part of the website. Thanks text/html 2020-11-26T13:03:42+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=practical_issues&rev=1606395822&do=diff Practical Issues Before Death 1 - discussing death with the dying 2 - telling family 3 - telling children 4 - sorting out 'the affairs' of the dying 5 - liaising with health professionals 6 - liaising with clergy and religious leaders 7 - last hours Immediately after death 1 - laying out 2 - dealing with visitors 3 - the undertaker 4 - telling close relatives who live far away 5 - notifying the bank, social security etc. 6 - registering the death 7 - dealing with your own grief … text/html 2020-12-02T21:05:41+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=preparing&rev=1606943141&do=diff Designing a creative funeral service Some preliminaries Be very clear from the start what you are trying to do in this service. Our suggestion would be that you are providing a focus for people’s grief at the death of the person concerned. But you may have other ideas or needs. For instance it may be a chance to bring together “sides” of the family that have not been getting on very well. Or it may be to communicate to a wider audience some of the achievements the deceased kept modestly quiet… text/html 2020-11-21T12:20:51+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=registering_the_death&rev=1605961251&do=diff Registering the death Join discussion This can be a very emotional time for many people as formal registering of a death brings a new level of reality. Be sure to look after yourself as you prepare to register the death, have a close friend or family member there to support you if possible. The people at registry offices are very used to helping and facilitating at this difficult time so don't be worried about not knowing anything or not being prepared. text/html 2020-10-25T19:51:48+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=sidebar&rev=1603655508&do=diff The Sidebar Forum text/html 2020-11-23T10:24:53+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=some_books_that_might_prove_helpful&rev=1606127093&do=diff Some books that might be helpful Join discussion We would be grateful if you can share any books or resources that can help others. text/html 2020-11-11T18:18:11+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=some_significant_variants_of_standard_beliefs&rev=1605118691&do=diff Some significant variants of standard belief Join discussion text/html 2020-11-11T15:40:48+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=sorting_out_the_affairs_of_the_dying&rev=1605109248&do=diff Sorting out the affairs of the dying Join discussion By far the most important thing to be done is to ensure that there is a will - and that you know where it is. If there is no will (or it cannot be found), lose no time in getting one drawn up. If the sums involved are modest, you can do this quickly and easily by buying on line or from a good stationer an appropriate form. It is self explanatory, but it will need two witnesses. If the estate is large or complicated or if there are family dis… text/html 2020-11-23T10:28:28+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=standard_church_of_england_teaching&rev=1606127308&do=diff Standard Church of England Teaching Join discussion Anglican view on Death The reality is that Anglicans believe all sorts of things! Although there is an Anglican orthodoxy, - which we will try to present here - if you asked a dozen Anglicans what they thought happened after death, you would get at least thirteen answers! text/html 2020-12-07T12:43:11+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=start&rev=1607344991&do=diff Last Words - help for those facing death * Practical Issues * The Grieving Process * Faith, Belief, Thinking about Death Click on any one of these topics and you will be taken to a detailed menu of subjects we cover. Here you will find a short account or explanation which we have written and a link to a forum where you can join a conversation about this subject. text/html 2020-12-01T21:03:49+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=telling_children&rev=1606856629&do=diff Telling Children Join discussion Perhaps this is not the most helpful title because as we all know, there are children and children. Obviously age and educational level have a huge influence on how they think, imagine, construct the world, but so do less obvious variables like the emotional health of the home, relationships with siblings and non-family adults, exposure to experiences of all kinds and what one might call the mystique of death within which they have been raised. Given the comple… text/html 2020-11-21T12:02:50+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=telling_close_relatives_who_live_far_away&rev=1605960170&do=diff Telling close relatives who live far away Join discussion There are two major issues here - shock and forward planning. “Close” relatives are not necessarily emotionally close; indeed it is sometimes almost impossible to maintain emotional bonds over long distances for sustained periods. Yet it is also true that news of the imminent or recent death of a “close” distant relative can come as a real blow. It is as though the extinction of a familial tie sharpens its value. text/html 2020-11-11T15:39:34+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=telling_family&rev=1605109174&do=diff Telling the family Join discussion You had not been feeling brilliant for some time so your GP had sent you for diagnostic tests to the local hospital. Today, he has told you you have an inoperable cancer of the throat and are unlikely to live “beyond the summer”. Now you need to tell your three children. How can you do this? text/html 2021-01-11T11:25:50+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=the_choice_of_music&rev=1610364350&do=diff The Choice of Music Join discussion Music at a funeral can touch places where words cannot reach. Choosing music for the funeral can help you to remember the person who has died and can be a really important part of the service. There is much more flexibility in music and how it is played at a funeral service especially in crematoriums and chapels of rest and sometimes people are encouraged to choose very unlikely music. Although this can make the service personal, we do think that it is im… text/html 2020-12-03T14:21:32+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=the_grieving_process&rev=1607005292&do=diff The Grieving Process 1. Initial shock and how to limit it 2. Distressing dreams 3. Loneliness and the sense of absence 4. Birthdays and other significant dates 5. Other people's attempts at solace 6. Grief and guilt 7. Dealing with regrets 8. Transitioning 9. Some books that might prove helpful text/html 2020-12-02T21:29:28+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=the_importance_of_mourning&rev=1606944568&do=diff The Importance of Mourning Join discussion Some cultures would find a heading about the importance of mourning very strange. In these cultures there would be a series of rituals and processes that would automatically click into place when someone dies and be non-negotiable - 'this is just what happens when someone dies'. text/html 2020-12-02T20:36:59+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=the_undertaker&rev=1606941419&do=diff The Undertaker Dealing with the undertaker. Professionalisation. This trade or profession has altered radically in the last two or three decades. In the Yorkshire village where I was brought up, the local undertaker was a builder, a carpenter and an active participant in the local community. Everyone knew Cecil and although his service may have been a bit rough round the edges, his was a friendly face and manner that brought familiarity and comfort at a difficult time. text/html 2020-12-02T21:20:14+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=the_wake&rev=1606944014&do=diff The Wake Join discussion The statement you often hear at a wake is 'I wish s/he was here to enjoy this'. If you have organised a wake where this is said then you have really honoured the departed. There are cultural differences in the wake, but this is a time when the tensions of the death and the funeral have passed and there is a real opportunity to celebrate the life of the deceased. It is often a time when you get to know the dead person in ways that were impossible during their lifetim… text/html 2020-11-19T13:39:20+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=transitioning&rev=1605793160&do=diff Transitioning Join discussion “Transitioning” is an unlovely word much in use on the other side of the Atlantic by counsellors and corporate consultants who claim to be able to identify universally experienced processes and turning points as people adjust to new situations. We are sceptical about that: in our experience people vary enormously over the time it takes, the things that help, the nodal moments along the way. Actually we think it can do harm to lead people to expect , look for, even… text/html 2020-11-11T18:21:31+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=what_do_classically_trained_psychotherapists_believe&rev=1605118891&do=diff What do classically trained psychotherapists believe? Join discussion text/html 2020-12-03T10:14:33+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=what_do_hindus_believe&rev=1606990473&do=diff What do Hindus believe? Join discussion Our understanding of Hindu beliefs about death follow naturally from their beliefs about the ultimate purpose of life. The soul (atman, from the word for breath, an) is trapped in a cycle of seemingly endless reincarnation as it seeks moksa, the absorption into the godhead of Brahman. Death is then the release of the soul from its present incarnation and its preparation for the next stage of the cycle. What that will be depends on the karma, the merit, o… text/html 2020-11-11T17:01:01+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=what_do_we_make_of_the_paranormal&rev=1605114061&do=diff Death and the Paranormal Join discussion It is well known that people who are in deep grief are more susceptible to experiences of the paranormal than they would be in less distressing times. Such experiences take a wide variety of forms, often involving some awareness of the “presence” of the deceased. Hearing unexpected sounds; observing remarkable coincidences; finding articles in strange places….these and many others are not uncommon. text/html 2020-11-23T09:57:28+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=what_does_confucianism_teach&rev=1606125448&do=diff What does Confucianism teach? Join discussion What does Confucianism teach about death? We include this entry because there has been much modern rediscovery and reinterpretation of the teaching of Confucius (552-491BC), that takes into account both its effects on Daoism and Buddhism (which have been influential in some aspects of European culture in recent years) and, perhaps more significantly in the long run, the rapprochement between the official line of the Chinese Communist Party and key… text/html 2020-12-03T10:10:57+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=what_does_islam_teach&rev=1606990257&do=diff What does Islam teach? Join discussion Islamic Beliefs about Death Even more than with other major religions, we are in shifting territory when we try to pin down Islamic beliefs. What we present here is a kind of Highest Common Factor among a wide penumbra of beliefs and practices that vary from country to country, from denomination to denomination (principally but not exclusively Sunni and Shia), from one reading of the Koran to another. text/html 2020-11-11T17:00:10+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=what_does_the_study_of_near-death_experiences_suggest&rev=1605114010&do=diff Near Death Experiences Join discussion This is a very difficult and much disputed area. For the grieving, it is also a very relevant one. We need to go back a little in history. From the earliest of times., there had been suggestions that people on the edge of life and death had remarkable experiences. Elizatheh Kubler Ross made a major contribution in the 1950s bringing evidence together that suggested that some people on the threshold of death had experiences of life, vitality, community an… text/html 2020-11-11T15:29:08+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=what_shall_i_wear&rev=1605108548&do=diff What shall I wear? One of the most important things at a funeral is that you are relaxed enough to focus on the life of the person who has died and are able to grieve. Feeling comfortable in what you are wearing is important so that you can be released from this as a potential worry. Feeling comfortable is about clothes and shoes that fit and don't need attention. Feeling comfortable is also about choosing clothes that respect and honour the deceased and fit in with the culture and expectations… text/html 2020-11-25T13:23:57+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=whatoptions&rev=1606310637&do=diff What are the options? Join discussion Options available. As you will see, there is a lot to think about and decide following a death in the family. In this section, we introduce you to some of the major strategic decisions that will have to be made, most of them quite soon after the death - just at the time when we are least likely to be in executive mode. The good news is that there will be plenty of people around to help, most obviously the person who will take the funeral and the undertak… text/html 2020-10-02T13:47:12+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=who_can_help_me&rev=1601646432&do=diff Who can help me? text/html 2020-11-19T13:29:23+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=who_we_are&rev=1605792563&do=diff We are two friends who realised that there are not enough opportunities to discuss and share experiences about death. Originally we were hoping to open a 'Death Cafe' but the pandemic meant that this was impossible so we thought an on-line resource might be a helpful alternative. text/html 2020-12-02T21:10:16+00:00 Anonymous (anonymous@undisclosed.example.com) https://www.lastwords.uk/doku.php?id=writing_the_eulogy&rev=1606943416&do=diff Writing the eulogy Some points to bear in mind. 1.Watch the length. Better to leave people wishing for more rather than for less! 2.Humour is always tricky; never more so than at a funeral. Aim to laugh with, not at. 3.The eulogy is about the deceased, not you, so keep your stuff to yourself.